Tuesday, February 15, 2011

When Mother Needs to Rest

Hello Dear Readers,

I hope this finds you well and good.  Today I had to take a rest.  I have been pushing myself too much.  I have been getting to bed late, very late every night.  To compensate, I have been making myself drink 2 cups of coffee every day to function (something I do not usually do).  I have not been eating right, because I have been eating on the go more than usual, as I have had to run extra errands lately, trying to attend to some household matters.  It is tax season, which for us means a tax refund, so we are trying to get some things fixed around the house that are broken, while still saving enough money to survive off of while my husband does not have enough hours.  I have been pushing and pushing myself in the struggle to get things done.

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But today my body said Enough.  I had finished my big shopping trip for the majority of two weeks, and as I brought bags in from our van, my head began to pound.  All the little children's noises just got noisier.  Their excited greetings were not as usually pleasant to me, and I begged them to quiet down.  After I nursed the hungry baby I struggled to get the food put away and then get everybody's dinner that had been cooking in the crock pot all day.  I then told Husband I was going to lay down for a bit in our dark, (somewhat) quiet room.  I had taken some acetaminophen, which I don't normally like to do, but will do when I have a migraine coming on.  When I forced myself to get up about 40 minutes later, my head felt a lot better.  I tucked all the children into bed and kissed them goodnight and then got myself  some dinner.  The dishes did not get washed and will be waiting for me there in the kitchen in the morning, which I am not happy about.  But this is what happens When Mother Needs to Rest.

I will try to take better care of myself next week.

18 comments:

Miss Linda said...

I hope you rested well and will rise refreshed and restored. Sometimes a bite to eat and a restful night of sleep are the very best medicine!

Jo said...

Mothers are human and needs rests to. Only last week I had ear ache and was partly deaf and I also had to lie somewhere quiet for a while (all better now).

Blessings

PS I love that painting by vilhelm hammershoi, I have a copy of it as a poster on my wall at work. The model is his wife.

Mrs. Stam said...

baby is keeping me up late (she is nursing lots lately teething )so my brain is functioning on way to little sleep and at time I feel like just running away and sleep, but I can't. Hoping you feel rested soon

Mrs. Q said...

Aw sorry, Mrs. Stam. I hope you get some rest soon too!

Mrs. Q said...

Thank you, Miss Linda. I actually didn't get to bed very early because of my late dinner and everything because of the migraine. And I have to be up early this morning to go renew my driver's license! But I am hoping I can get to bed early tonight. I always appreciate your visits.

Jo~nice to see you. Yes, mothers *are* human too :) I am glad you are feeling better.

Thank you for the info on the painting!

Anonymous said...

Hello, I understand about those headaches! I get them when I don't drink enough water, especially since you are nursing. You might want to look up about acetaminophen, there have been recent (2010) warnings about its toxicity--I use ibuprofen and friends I have like Excedrin for their headaches (I keep forgetting to buy some). Glad you're feeling better. A mom to six, ages 18-months to 13 years. :)

Summer said...

Awwww. Get some more rest and feel better. :)

Anonymous said...

Mrs. Q,

You would be surprised that I think about you on and off throughout my days. I know that you work hard each day to take care of your family. When the days are long, and the errands never seem to end, and the daily tasks become demanding, it's time to rest. It's hard sometimes, but if we don't rest, we can't function, and therefore, we won't be our best for our families.

You're doing such a fine job with your family, Mrs. Q. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

Take care Dear Mother.

Blessings,

-Lady Rose

Don and Shelly said...

Bless your heart, Mrs. Q! It is so important to take care of yourself... of course you already know that. Next time, know that I'll save you a cup of tea, a comfy bed on the couch and a fire in the fireplace to rest by... ;)

Linda said...

I hope you get some rest Mrs.Q.Running errands plus homemaking tasks is very tiring,especially when you have so much going on at once.
Linda

Jaime Lynn said...

Awww I am praying for you! I wish that you were my neighbor...I would come over and do those dishes for you! (((HUGS)))

Simply Be... said...

Oh dear..I hope you're feeling a little better now Mrs Q!
Sometimes we mums just keep going that little bit too far and then are forced to stop.
Take care, dear lady, and don't fret over things like the dishes.
Nobody's able to keep a perfectly run house all the time. The world won't stop turning because the dishes wait til morning!
Rest in Him, my friend..Trish

Anonymous said...

i too need a rest now and then. my big problem tho is that mornings are very tough for me when my lupus acts up but i am striving to give myself permission to take it easy regardless of what others are capable of. you do the same! :)

Delisa said...

Hello Mrs. Q, I came across your blog today, it is so beautiful! I loved what you said about "mother resting". It really touched my heart. I do not have any children myself, but my mother was often very ill when I was young, and there were times she needed to rest or stay off her feet for long periods of time. As a child, knowing that my mom was not a "super woman" and that she had emotions and pain, helped me to grow up into a more nuturing and compassionate person. I got a lot of joy and self confidence from doing little things to help her to feel better. When I was little my Dad would help me bring her a glass of water, or cool cloth for her head. As I was older I learned to make dinner and clean house. Learning to help my mother was a gift beyond price. I have a friend, who refused to show her children anything she thought was a "weakness" because she didn't want the children to grow up feeling insecure. She thought that they needed to see "mom" as invincible so they would feel safe. Her heart was in the right place, but it has sadly back fired and now as adults they don't know how to properly empathize with people. They are wonderful young adults and dearly loved, but they don't know how to read other's emotionally and when something happens they don't understand they are insecure and pull away. It is going to be challenging for both them and my friend as she gets older and more vulnerable. Your post teaches a fine lesson for us all.

I hope you have a lovely day! Delisa :)

Don and Shelly said...

Mrs. Q, I'll save you a nice cup of tea and if you doze off, I'll understand... ;)

Nabila Grace said...

Oh my dear you sound like me! :o) It's so hard sometimes to just rest...but if we mama's don't take care of us by resting we can't take care of anyone else...praying for you my dear!

Julieann said...

I hope you were able to get some much needed rest by the time you read this. As a mother myself, I can so relate. Especially with little ones underfoot, it is so hard to take it easy.

Julieann

P.S. What did you make in the crockpot:)

Mrs. Q said...

All of you~thank you SO much for your kind words and concern for me. I don't have a migraine anymore but have had a headache off and on due to not getting enough sleep all week still. Things have been crazy busy around here this week! Hopefully things will quiet down soon.

Lady Rose~I actually think of you too during my day! That is neat :) You are a dear, sweet woman, and I always appreciate your visits.

Shelly~I would love to share a cup of tea with you :)

Jaime Lynn~do my dishes? Really???!! Oh that would be great!!! :) (We do have a lot though :) )

Summer, Linda, Trish, Tami, Nabila~Thank you! You all are so sweet.

Delisa~I am so glad to have you stop by and appreciate you sharing with me about your mother. I know some mothers too that think that you shouldn't show your children any weaknesses, and I have wondered what the balance is? I want to be honest with my children, but I also don't want to overburden them. I also want them to learn compassion. Thank you for sharing your insights.

Julieann~I think that day I made a roast with onions and tomatoes in one crock pot and bolito beans (very similar to pinto beans) in the other. I am often making two separate meals for my family right now because my husband and eldest daughter can only eat certain foods right now.

Anonymous~I will look up acetaminophen~ I would prefer to take something herbal that would help, but I don't know enough about that yet.