How do you speak to your children? Are you harsh in your mannerisms? Do you even yell at your children? Now there is a time for yelling. It is when someone is too far away to hear a normal tone of voice. It can also be in urgency. But to speak this way day-to-day--it should not be so.
Mothers need to exemplify a calm, quiet tone to their children. Directions can be given without being rude, harsh, and disrespectful. Discipline can be administered without yelling and fits. Yes, some days it is hard when you have not had enough sleep or when your hormones are not cooperating. But just take a step back and ask the Lord Jesus to help you, and then, believe that He will. You have to have faith that He will make you into the Momma He wants you to be. If you are His, then He will make you more like Him.
If you have messed up, ask the Lord to forgive you. Then ask your children. Tell them Momma shouldn't yell at them like that, that you are sorry, and that God is going to give you the strength to do better.
Things to help tame your tongue:
- Do your best to get enough rest each night. Are you going to bed too late? Make an earlier bedtime and make it a priority to stick to it. It is always easier to be "nice" when you've had enough sleep.
- Never skip your time alone with the Lord. He is going to teach you in His Word how to do the things He wants you to do. Also spend time in prayer each day.
- Take the time to look up, and then memorize verses on anger and the power of the tongue. There are many Scriptures that speak of how damaging our words can be.
- Stay away from processed foods as much as possible. These foods have chemicals that disrupt your natural hormones and how your body functions. The foods God made will best suit your body and help it work properly (including your mind).