My House Was...
What does it mean to be a keeper at home? Well, surely it means to be at home, keeping it. And must we do it slovenly, and haphazardly, or shall we do as excellent a job as possible? The answer is, of course, we must do a good job. After all, it is our job. We cannot expect to lounge around, stay on the computer, stay on the phone, wake up late, play games and then have a clean, peaceful home with good and obedient children. How spoiled we have become! With our modern conveniences of dishwashers, washing machines and driers, microwaves, and even stoves, we have become rather lazy in our housework. We don't have to prepare every food from scratch if we don't want to. We can always pop in at the local store to pick something up to eat! Does this make our modern conveniences wrong? No, but it has made the job of keeping the home easier than it once was, and we therefore do not take it so seriously, perhaps.
Of course this does not apply to all of us. But, if it does apply to you, you must decide to make a change for the sake of your family, and for the sake of the Word of God. "That they may teach the young women...To be keepers at home...that the word of God be not blasphemed." (Titus 2:4, 5) From this, I think it's safe to say that if we purposefully do not try our best to be good keepers at home and take this job seriously, then we are blaspheming the word of God.
I have heard more than once excuses from mothers online who tell of how impossible it is to have a clean home or a peaceful home because they have children. Days at home are spent only rolling around with children playing games, making messes and not cleaning them up (which is of course fine because it wonderful and important to play with your children, but not at the exclusion of other responsibilities!) In reality many mothers are hiding away from the responsibilities of home by going from website to website, talking on the phone for hours, or plopping in front of the television for their favorite shows, while the children are left to themselves and learn to be unruly and idle.
Mothers, if this is you, make a commitment to change, starting today! We are to be keepers at home, yes, but it does no good to be in the home if we are not being responsible keepers!
Think of how it would be if you had a paying job outside of the home. Could you arrive whenever you wanted to? Would you show up in your pajamas and bed head? Could you decide not to do the tasks you had to do every day so that those you were responsible for would have meals, clean clothes, and a clean place to live? If you showed up late, looked like a mess, and didn't perform your assigned duties, you would surely be fired quite quickly! But do we take our jobs at home this seriously? We should.
There are times of illness and other unexpected events that may keep us from our homemaking duties for a time. But this should be the exception, and not the rule. If you are having a hard time keeping up with daily tasks, it may be that you have too much clutter, and you should begin today by sorting through things to get rid of. Keep only what you absolutely need or is loved and adds beauty to the home. It is also important to have a daily routine or schedule, for you and your children. It will help you and them know what to expect each day, and you will be able to handle interruptions more easily as well. There are several books on keeping house available. A couple I recommend are Home Comforts: The Art and Science of Keeping House, which has everything you need to know about house-keeping, and Sidetracked Home Executives: From Pigpen to Paradise, which will help you get a system together for chores for you and your children.
If you've been living for self and not for the well-being of your family, then repent of this selfishness and get busy making the necessary changes, one day at a time. God will surely help you to do the things you need to do to take care of your family, so don't forget to pray and ask Him to lead you and guide you.
Let us glorify Him in all that we do.
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