Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Stay at Home Mothers of the Past



Christian families have changed their viewpoint quite a bit over the past several years.  Instead of embracing women as being keepers at home, we often hear excuses about how it is too hard to do this.

Only about forty years ago, it was normal for mothers to stay home. People didn't have nearly the expectation of lifestyle that many do today. They didn't have computers or cell phones, etc.  Families had one landline, and they had to be very careful to call long distance only during the "cheap" times.  Families had much smaller, less luxurious houses.  Some families lived in an apartment or trailer until they had been married for several years and had a few children before they finally were able to buy their first house. Families bought clothes from secondhand, cheap places.  It was a luxury to go to Walmart and buy something new, like for a birthday or Christmas.  Families were very frugal in many ways.  Instead of women going to work to bring in money, they sacrificed financially for a husband to go to school to get a degree if it was necessary.

We need to rethink our priorities.  Our priorities should not be to have more money or more "stuff".  The priority should always be for women to be the keepers of their homes and for men to be the providers, like the Bible says.

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18 comments:

SIRVIENDO AL SEÑOR said...

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Blessed Homemaking said...

God bless you, dear sister in Christ, as you seek to follow the Lord. Hopefully your daughter's heart will be changed so that she will stay home to care for her family. It is such a blessing when women do this. May God bless you and your family.

Gigi said...

Yes, I agree with what you post. I am heart broken when mothers do not stay home. There is always a way to make it work...

Trish Clark said...

Greetings,

I so agree with you. This world is so upside-down. I'm pretty old now and as I think back I have fond memories of the simple boundaries and contentment I grew up in. Also, when I think of all the things that I got as I grew that were of now value for real living.
Thank you for your blog.
Trish Clark

Trish Clark said...

Greetings,

I so agree with you. This world is so upside-down. I'm pretty old now and as I think back I have fond memories of the simple boundaries and contentment I grew up in. Also, when I think of all the things that I got as I grew that were of no value for real living.
Thank you for your blog.
Trish Clark

Deborah Grant said...

Another tragic issue today is the huge college debt women burden themselves with. They go into marriage with it and have to work for years to pay it off. 😢

Blessed Homemaking said...

Yes, Deb, that is sadly true. More people in the church need to realize this so they stop encouraging all the young women to go to college.

Blessed Homemaking said...

Yes, Trish, the world is so upside down. Younger mothers need to hear about how things used to be and learn the wisdom of times past. Thanks for writing in.

Blessed Homemaking said...

It makes me so sad too, Gigi. Our world has changed so much I believe in many ways as a direct consequence of this.

Anonymous said...

How refreshing this site is. I'm a stay at home mom with a 3-month old daughter, also tending a small farm. I used to work on computers all day, but it's so satisfying to know I'm raising the next generation instead of having strangers at a daycare raise our child (we'll be homeschooling too, or possibly looking into a Mennonite or Amish school). I don't miss working on the computers at the workplace at all and my husband and I are quite happy. Feeling blessed!

Deborah Grant said...

🙏❤️

Rosa Francis said...

I'm thankful everyday I never went to college. No debt for me. And at 25, all I want is to be married now and have a family

Deborah Grant said...

God bless you Rosa! I pray you are blessed with a sweet godly, husband and children soon. 🙏☺️

Blessed Homemaking said...

Rosa Francis That is wonderful. I'm sure you didn't miss out on anything. May the Lord bless you with a godly husband with many children to come.

Dana Lynn Witt said...

Renei Hundley-Pearson said...

I couldn’t agree more

Melony Gilbert said...

❤️🙏🏻

Blessed Homemaking said...

To the lady planning to homeschool or perhaps send your child to a Mennonite or Amish school: I'm so glad the post blessed you. I do think homeschooling is far superior than the other options you mention, as you will be with your child all day, knowing exactly what is going on with her life. You can instruct her as we see in the Bible, training up your child in God's ways. Nothing can replace that strong bond that will be built in being with your daughter so much and filling her life with lessons about the Lord. If she is sent to school, there will be peer influence, which, more often than not, even in a Christian school, is bad instead of good. God bless ♥