Saturday, May 18, 2019

True Beauty for the Christian Woman

"Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised." Proverbs 31:30

Why is not beauty included in the character of the virtuous woman? Is not beauty a bright ornament to her virtue? But there is no mention made of it in this description, because it is a lowly quality in comparison of those which are here enumerated. It is but a flower that fades in a day; and the love produced by it is but a transient passion.

When beauty is not sweetened by godly virtue, the woman who possesses it is but like a swine with a golden jewel in its snout, as Solomon tells us. At the best, beauty cannot secure that love which it raises, for when it becomes familiar to the lover, it palls upon his sight; and sometimes tempts him to curse that enchanting influence which blinded his eyes to more solid virtues.

But a woman who fears the Lord, whether she has beauty or not--shall be praised. For true piety is the beauty of the soul, and excels that which lies in complexion and features, as much as Heaven is higher than the earth, or eternity is longer than time.

The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the most essential part of the virtuous woman's character. It is this which sanctifies every other part of it, and makes her all glorious within. The pleasant effects of the fear of the Lord spread themselves into every part of her behavior, and cannot but excite the admiration of all beholders.

Beauty is indeed a lovely trait when it is joined with piety and humility--but without them it is a snare and a trap! In choosing a wife, fools will follow their imagination--and the wise will act according to reason and the Word of God.
~George Lawson, 1821

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Friday, May 10, 2019

Remembering Mother's Day

Many Mother's Days have passed for me, come and gone.  I have before lost a baby to miscarriage around Mother's Day, and sometimes it still brings me grief as I remember the loss of our little one.  But thankfully, I still get to be a mother to our children here and enjoy them.  There is something so amazing about being a mother and getting to be with your children every day and watch them grow up. There is time to instruct them and encourage them.  There is so much blessing in it, even if you are never thanked or appreciated, but I have noticed little children are very good at appreciating their mothers.

In years past, I have been given the most wonderful memories.  Where memories fail me, I thankfully have some sweet pictures of all the little children huddled around me on Mother's Day, hugging me and giving me gifts.  The gifts were almost always something they made with their own hands, with little notes that were such an encouragement to me.  These gifts were so special and the thought of them making them is something I will always treasure.  One year when the children were young, they decided to plant garden seeds into several mugs and little pots for me for Mother's Day.  I think there were peas and carrots, onions, garlic, and perhaps some flowers.  I have several pictures of us surrounded by these little containers of not plants, but dirt (smiles).  I don't think anything ever grew out of those mugs, but the thought was so sweet, along with all the effort they went to to make my Mother's Day special.

Wherever you are and whatever your situation, I hope you have a happy and blessed Mother's Day.  Even if no one remembers your motherhood on this day, just think how the Lord knows and is happy for His daughter to be raising up her children in His ways.  He even blesses a repentant heart for when we have made mistakes.  And for those of you not yet blessed with earthly children, remember you can be like a mother to others in some way--with that nurturing and loving spirit the Lord gives to women who love Him. 

This Mother's Day, I think I will spend some extra time in prayer over my motherhood, thanking the Lord for this gift and also asking for His trusted help this year to come of raising our children, for I know I cannot do it without Him.
"You are as much serving God in looking after your own children, and training them up in God's fear, and minding the house, and making your household a church for God, as you would be if you had been called to lead an army to battle for the Lord of hosts." 
-Charles Spurgeon

"O dear mothers, you have a very sacred trust reposed in you by God! He hath in effect said to you, “Take this child and nurse it for Me, and I will give thee thy wages.” You are called to equip the future man of God, that he may be thoroughly furnished unto every good work. If God spares you, you may live to hear that pretty boy speak to thousands, and you will have the sweet reflection in your heart that the quiet teachings of the nursery led the man to love his God and serve Him. Those who think that a woman detained at home by her little family is doing nothing, think the reverse of what is true. Scarcely can the godly mother quit her home for a place of worship; but dream not that she is lost to the work of the church; far from it, she is doing the best possible service for her Lord. Mothers, the godly training of your offspring is your first and most pressing duty."


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Thursday, May 9, 2019

How Young Women are Protected

"If a woman does not have a husband to be her provider and protector, her father as the natural authority from her birth or her brother - as seen above [see Lev. 21:2-3] - ought to care for her.  A wedding ceremony is the time when a girl moves from being under the care of her father to being under her groom's care.

This is how God designed men and women to function in a family. Girls should not be trained to 'be independent on their own,' but to learn how to follow, to be the helper and encourager and comforter to the man God places in her life."

~Patricia Regar

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Thursday, May 2, 2019

Ways Women Take on a Masculine Role

We need to be supportive of our husbands in their masculine role of being leaders, providers, and protectors.  We should be aware of the ways women take on masculine roles so that we do not do the same to our husbands.  It is easy to adopt a feminist mindset, as it has become so deeply ingrained in our society.  We may have certain feminist views that we are not even aware of.

Women take on masculine roles when they enter the workforce and compete with men for greater achievement, higher positions, and earning more money.  We learn all the way back in Genesis that it is the man's role to be a provider and not a woman's (Genesis 3:16, 19).  If a woman is working, a man will not feel as great a need, if any, to work by the sweat of his brow to provide for his family.

Women also take on masculine roles when they try to take over leadership in the home instead of trustingly looking to their husbands for guidance and a strong arm to lean on.  The leadership position was given to husbands by God Himself.  This doesn't mean that we have no opinions or wisdom, especially in our own sphere of the home, but often women neglect looking to their own husbands for guidance.  Even taking over the masculine chores around the house takes over something a husband can and should be doing, unless there is a real emergency where he is unable.

Some women think they are "helping" their husbands by doing these things.  But really, they are hindering their husbands, because the wives are taking on the husbands' role instead of focusing on their own duties.  When we take on masculine roles instead of letting our husbands do them, it harms the family.  It is detrimental to our husbands' feeling of being needed as the leader, protector, and provider for his family, which God created him to be.  It also causes us to be less feminine and creates more stress in our own lives.  We also neglect important functions in our own role as wife, mother, and homemaker.

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Monday, April 15, 2019

Are You Taking Your Marriage for Granted?

A marriage from the Lord is something to be preciously guarded and upheld.  It can be destroyed if husband and wife do not take care to maintain the sweetness and uniqueness of the marriage bond.

Husband and wife should be best friends.  There should be nothing they cannot or do not want to share together.  Intimacy is not just a physical union. If you have left becoming "one flesh" at just physical intimacy, you are really missing out on what one flesh means.  It is a joining of spirits and sharing thoughts and dreams, being vulnerable to one another, in a way that is not done with any other human being in the world.  (Song of Solomon 8:6-7)

Hearken back to the time of your courtship and engagement, and remember how there was nothing you liked better than to spend time with your husband- or wife-to-be.  You talked together, shared your feelings with one another, made plans together.  You included each other in whatever you could because you loved to be together.  You couldn't wait to tell them what was going on in your life and to share news with them.  You shared about what happened in the time you'd been apart.  There was no one that could replace this person, because you had eyes and heart only for them.  These feelings of love and oneness should only increase during marriage, not decrease!

Husbands and wives would do well to involve each other with extended family relationships.  Once a man and woman are married, they should endeavor to keep each other involved in the news of each other's families.  Sometimes, husbands and wives maintain separate relationships with parents or siblings that have absolutely no involvement with their spouse.  When we marry, we are told to leave our families we grew up with and to cleave to one another (Genesis 2:24).   This does not mean that we cut off ties and communication and visits with our parents, siblings, etc.  But it means that we have begun a new family wherein we always put our spouse first, and keep each other involved with our family.  Too often, wives go with complaints to their mothers about their husbands, or wives have long, deep conversations with their mothers or sisters about things that they will not share with their husbands.  I daresay this happens with husbands too.  Sometimes extended family members will try to pry into the couple's private relationship and make suggestions or inquiries into what should be private domestic life. This is not conducive to the "cleaving" we are supposed to be doing in marriage.  I knew a couple who kept each other involved with their extended family by having "catch-up" calls with each other's family when they were both on the phone.  This way, they each knew about what was going on and were part of the conversation, and the husband and wife maintained a united front.

We should not keep secrets from our spouse or hold back information.  We should be upfront about things that have happened during the day and struggles we are having.  Wives would do well to share with their husbands what has happened in the home during the day.  Husbands would do well to share with their wives about the goings on at his place of employment.  Our modern era has us spending much of our time apart, so to keep our relationships strong, we must make the effort to speak to one another.

Wives are mainly protected in the home, which is a wonderful place of shelter.  She may go out to do the shopping, but shouldn't she share with her husband if another man was showing interest in her?  In the same way, husbands must carefully guard their hearts in the workplace.  Because of our upside-down society, men often spend their working days with other women.  They are having conversations with these women and often spend more time with them than they do their own wives.  Husbands may come home from work having talked all day to other people, and may hardly have a word for their wives.  This will not lead to a fruitful marriage, nor strengthen the marriage bond.  Husbands would be wise to tell their wives about the people they work with, keeping an honest and open account with their one-flesh partner.  This will bring a great element of trust into the relationship, and also build accountability.  There are many adulterous relationships that begin in the workplace that never were intentional, but a bond was built between two people who spent much time together in the day-to-day.  Remember that adultery begins in the heart, and often starts with seemingly harmless conversation.  Wives, though they may be tired by the end of day, should take an interest in their husband's work and happenings at his place of employment.  After all, he has been at work all day to provide for her and the children.

We must remember, that though the Lord has first place in our hearts, we are to very much be about pleasing our husbands (and husbands to please their wives) once we are married (1 Corinthians 7:32-34).  Let us not take our marriages for granted.

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Wednesday, April 10, 2019

Another Free, Old Homemaking Book

Dear Ladies at Home,

Some of you have made requests for me to post more of these books, so I'm writing just another quick post today to give you a link to another free homemaking book.  The Book of Household Management by Mrs. Isabella Beeton has been republished in a sort of e-book form, so you may find it easier to read than the last one.  This one was published in 1861 originally and contains a lot of recipes.  Again, I'm not sure how practical it is, but it's sure to be interesting.  If you're looking for the original version, there are a lot of options to download here.  Also, if you prefer print versions, a lot of these old books can be purchased from Amazon or perhaps eBay.

I hope you enjoy this!

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Thursday, April 4, 2019

Free Homemaking Book (an Old One)

If you enjoy old, free homemaking books, you might want to see this one.  In past years, there have been several books published about keeping the home. I have not read this one, so I cannot say whether it is good or not.  I will leave that up to you.

This book was first published in 1915 and is entitled Household Engineering; Scientific Management in the Home, and its purpose was to help women run their households more efficiently.  Of course, some things won't apply to us--such as servants (smile), but it may still be an interesting read.

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Monday, March 25, 2019

History of the King James Bible

Last week I shared a short video that briefly explains why we use the KJV Bible.  For some people, there is still a lot of confusion about the preserved Word of God.  I understand this, as there are many, even among professing Christians, who have worked to discredit and speak out against the King James Bible.

Today, I want to share a longer video for you to take some time out and watch.  It covers much more detail, including the history of where we got our English Bible.  When it comes to something so important as God's Word, we should take an interest.  This is a subject I have researched over many years, and I think it's very important.

The words of the LORD are pure words: as silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times. Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever. (Psalms 12:6-7)

Also, a good article for the critics and naysayers, and those who want to learn more on this important subject on the preserved Word of God.

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Thursday, March 21, 2019

Why Use the King James Version (KJV) of the Bible

Even though when I was first saved, I did not attend a church that used the KJV, the Lord eventually led me to use the King James Bible.  I read a book titled Which Version is the Bible? by Floyd Nolen Jones many years ago, which made it very clear where God's Word is found.  The KJV is the version I always use here at Blessed Homemaking.  Recently, the issue of the importance of this Bible version issue has come to light again to us, so I wanted to share with you some brief, but good reasoning for using the KJV.

I'm posting below, a video by Dr. Kent Hovind. We have enjoyed several of his videos on creation vs. evolution, which are also very informative.  In this video, Dr. Hovind explains why the KJV is the preserved Word of God.  There are other sources of good information on this topic, but this will give a brief overview.

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Thursday, February 28, 2019

Joy in Homemaking

The homemaker's life can encompass a vast amount of tasks and roles.  Our work at home is great and varied.  Please join me today at Raising Homemakers for the rest of Joy in Homemaking.

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