When husband comes home from a hard day at work, what does he see on your face? Scowling frown, furrowed brow? Did you know this is not a pleasant thing for your husband to come home to? Could you try instead to speak to him joyfully, to greet him with a smile, to tell him you're happy that he's home instead of bombarding him with your own problems and how he's failed to meet your expectations?
There is power in joyfulness. Even if you've had a bad day, or you feel your husband is doing something rotten, you still can be "merry". Contrary to what you may think, "punishing" him by your sullen demeanor is not going to "convict him of his sin". However, he will probably come to dread being around you and will disappear by engulfing himself in movies or video games or by physically leaving. Just love him (and respect him!) the way he is, and wait for God to do the changes. Any change he makes in reaction to your frowning disapproval will not be lasting anyway. It is better to let God change the heart, then to try to force changes upon someone.
A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. (Proverbs 15:13)
When you two first got married, you didn't scowl at each other all the time! There was joy then; find it now! Place your trust where it belongs--in Jesus Christ who is "able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us" (Ephesians 3:20). He can also give you the ability to be joyful in the midst of sorrow or just in the general day-to-day life.
Pray. Remember when things are uncertain or not going well, to pray! Praying is our lifeline to God. All we need to do is ask, and talk to Him. Oh, what a friend we have in Jesus! If we would only remember to take each care and concern to Him instead of getting all worked up about something we cannot immediately change!
What we keep in our hearts will affect what comes out. Yes, life is hard, but the Saviour is bigger and more wonderful than any sorrow or trouble.
All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. (Proverbs 15:15)
A joyful heart will even effect our health...A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones. (Proverbs 17:22)
Today, can you give the gift of a joyful, thankful heart to your husband?
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