Friday, October 26, 2018

Phone Etiquette

Some mothers at home have a problem of receiving phone calls all throughout the day.  This can cause a great interruption to a busy day of homeschooling and homemaking, so what is a mother to do?

First off, we must realize that we shouldn't expect others to be available every time we want to get a hold of them.  Our modern conveniences of telephones, cell phones, email, social media, etc. have left some people very impatient to have an immediate reply when they want to speak to someone.  But we must be more considerate.

Just because a mother or housewife is at home and not employed outside the home, does not make her completely available to everyone who wants to reach her.  There is much to get done during the day, and especially if she is spending time with her children or husband, she shouldn't be expected to drop everything when someone rings.  While a housewife does have a great deal of freedom with her time, that does not mean that she has time for every interruption.  A housewife's schedule and responsibilities should be respected by others.

Of course, we know that sometimes we will have interruptions, and we must deal with them graciously.  But to always have them coming into our day is not helpful or conducive to accomplishing what is needed in the home. 

There are things a housewife can do to help with these interruptions.  If you have Caller ID, you can see easily if the phone needs to picked up.  If not, most households have an answering machine or voicemail that can be used to screen calls for an emergency.  Phone calls can be returned at a set time that won't interrupt the family's day.  Another polite way to contact people is email, as an email can be answered when the receiver is able.

Unfortunately, some people are pushy and not understanding about a homemaker's time, and still expect to be answered immediately.  You may have to graciously explain that you are unable to answer all the time, but that you will respond when you are able.

In the same vein, it is really impolite to break off in the middle of a conversation with someone to answer a text or phone call from someone else.  It is like allowing a person to pop up in the middle of you and the person you were having time with, who starts talking about something completely different.  This is a major problem in our modern technology age, but we should be considerate of those immediately around us, and remember that a message can always be checked, and a phone call returned at a more convenient time.

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Wednesday, September 19, 2018

New Homemaking Book

It is a lovely windy day here, with bits of sunshine streaming through the cloudy sky.  The pretty ivy vine on the neighbor's house has grown a lot since last year, and it has turned a brilliant deep red.  I snapped a picture of it last year, and will have to take another one this year.  Autumn is on its way.  I think it still remains my favorite season.

I always enjoy encouragement in my homemaking career and always want to see if there are ways I can improve what I am already doing.  I am also teaching my daughters how to be homemakers, so that they are prepared when they, Lord-willing, marry one day, and have their own husbands, children, and homes to care for.

Mrs. Sharon White has published a new book for help in learning some homemaking skills, and I can't wait to get mine.  I've been friends with Mrs. White for several years and very much enjoy her homemaking posts.  You can read about her new book here.

Have a very blessed day in the Lord.

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Thursday, September 13, 2018

What Sin Cost

"He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we esteemed Him not. Surely He took up our infirmities and carried our sorrows--yet we considered Him stricken by God, smitten by Him, and afflicted. He was pierced for our transgressions, He was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon Him, and by His wounds we are healed." Isaiah 53:3-5

Pilate delivered our Lord to the lictors to be scourged. The Roman scourge was a most dreadful instrument of torture. It was made of the sinews of oxen, and sharp bones were intertwined among the sinews; so that every time the lash came down, these pieces of bone inflicted fearful laceration and tore off the flesh from the bone. The Savior was, no doubt, bound to the whipping post and thus beaten. He had been beaten before; but this flagellation of the Roman lictors was probably the most severe of His scourgings. 
My soul, stand here and weep over His poor stricken body! Believer, can you gaze upon Him without tears as He stands before you, the mirror of agonizing love? He is at once as white as the lily for innocence, and as red as the rose with the crimson of His own blood.

As we feel the sure and blessed healing that His stripes have wrought in us--does not our heart melt at once with love and grief? If ever we have loved our Lord Jesus, surely we must feel that affection glowing now within our bosoms. 
We would be compelled to go to our chambers and weep, but our business calls us away. So we will first pray our Beloved to print the image of His bleeding self upon the tablets of our hearts all the day; and at nightfall we will return to commune with Him and sorrow that our sin should have cost Him so dearly!
~Charles Spurgeon

The next time we want to toy with sin, excuse sin, make it out to be a little thing, let us remember what it cost the dear Lord Jesus Christ.

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Saturday, September 8, 2018

How to Conquer Sin

"In all these things we are more than conquerors, through Him who loved us!" Romans 8:37

We go to Christ for forgiveness--and then too often look to the ourselves for power to fight our sins.

Christian! Take your sins to Christ's cross, for the old man can only be crucified there!

The only weapon to fight sin with, is the spear that pierced the side of Jesus!

To give an illustration: You want to overcome an angry temper--how do you begin? It is very possible you have never tried the right way of going to Jesus with it. How did I get salvation? I came to Jesus just as I was, and I trusted Him to save me. I must kill my angry temper in the same way--it is the only way in which I can ever kill it! I must go to the cross with it, and say to Jesus, "Lord, I trust You to deliver me from it."

Are you covetous? Do you feel the world entangle you? You may struggle against this evil as long as you wish--but if it is your besetting sin, you will never be delivered from it in any way but by the blood of Jesus. Take it to Christ! Tell Him: "Lord, I have trusted You, and You save Your people from their sins. Lord, this is one of my besetting sins--save me from it!"

You must be conquerors through Him who has loved you, if conquerors at all.

~Charles Spurgeon

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Friday, August 31, 2018

Christianity Begins in the Home

Please join me today at Raising Homemakers where we ponder our Christianity as it pertains to home.

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Friday, August 10, 2018

Christian Women's Ministry

A married woman's first obligation, her first ministry is her husband and then her children. Most women are meant to be married, raising children and tending to the needs of her husband.

It is rare that God calls women to full time ministry separate from marriage. A woman's greatest influence is over her husband and children.

Why do so many women think they are not engaging in ministry when they remain in the home offering a standard and character example for the rest of those in her household.

The greatest calling any woman can have is the affect a woman has is on the lives of those who live with her every day. If she does this well she has fulfilled God's mandate to serve Christ.

A woman's example and reach for Christ extends to the community in which her family lives. As she walks faithfully with God she will leave a sweet smelling aroma of God's love and purpose everywhere she goes.

If you are a homemaker, wife and mother, your influence is far greater than those women who neglect their home domain in favor of a career that brings them personal aggrandizement and a pay check.

Married women are not called to enter any other ministry apart from the family.

Proverbs 31 clearly states that homemaking, child rearing and care of husbands is the most important job the married woman can do.

We see in the Proverbs 31 passage that the woman who does her job well is very busy and even brings admiration from the community to her husband. The wife has the ability to make or break the career of her husband by her own conduct.

Far too many Christian wives have fallen into the trap of working outside the home to elevate their own status as well as gaining more money in order to be seen as prosperous and accomplished.

Sadly these women have no idea of the fulfillment and hard work involved in running a home with diligence and perseverance. If a woman did all the jobs a homemaker does for a wealthy family while obtaining a paycheck, this woman would be seen as having a career. But when the homemaker does all these things for her own family she is rejected and mocked as "just a housewife."

The devil has managed to intimidate women into believing they are not worth very much if they dedicate their lives to their families. They are viewed as unproductive and lacking intelligence because they do not receive that coveted pay check and "career" status.

There is nothing more fulfilling for the self motivated homemaker than caring for everyone in the family as well as volunteering in the community. Our homemaking skills are diverse and exciting, even more so than another job outside the home.

Never let anyone else intimidate you into believing you are not productive when your job is your home and family.

Those homemakers who are at home and do very little while in it, must repent from the attitude of laziness and begin to do well those things God has placed in their charge.

And lastly, never compare what you are doing with what anyone else is doing. God never called every woman to do exactly the same things. We have been called primarily to have husbands and children, they are our ministry.

Never allow others to intimidate you into thinking your job is not worthy. If you are obeying God and working as hard in your home as you are able, then you are in the center of God's Will.

~Gwendolyn Wehage

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Tuesday, July 31, 2018

New Feminine, Beautiful, and Modest Skirts

I just love dressing femininely.  It is wonderful to be a woman, to be different from men....
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Monday, July 30, 2018

A Great Opportunity to Learn from Other Homemakers

Look in the churches, and what do you see?  Do you see a lot of older women teaching the younger how to be great wives, mothers, and homemakers?  No, sadly, you don't...I feel this very keenly, and it saddens me that there is such a lack of Titus 2 teaching these days.  Ideally, this teaching should come from mothers to daughters at home, as they are growing up.  But the older women in the Church are still to be an example of good things and godly living, to the younger.

When I got married many years ago, I didn't have a clue how to be a housewife.  It wasn't something my mother ever thought to teach me.  Thus I went limping, struggling, into the world of becoming a homemaker all on my own.  I had to learn how to cook, clean, keep a routine, raise children, and many more things, without anyone to teach me how.  It was a great task to undertake, and it took me years to figure some things out on my own, especially with babies coming one right after another.

I am of course, still learning things and always seeking ways to improve.  This is one of the blessings of living in our modern times--that we can find ways to further our homemaking education, even if we weren't blessed with a mother who taught us, or if we have no one to turn to in the church.

One helpful resource for learning is coming up, so I wanted to let you know about it and encourage you to look into this resource to see if it can help you to learn more about homemaking. It's the 2018 Homemaking Ministries Online conference which has many talks from different ladies to help you learn more about different areas of taking care of your families.  To be honest, I am not familiar with all of the speakers, but I am familiar with several of them, especially in the kitchen category.  Those ladies will provide you with lots of helpful information about feeding your family well.  Also, Marci Ferrell usually has very helpful information about keeping a nice home for your family.  If you even think you could learn a little bit, I'd encourage you to sign up for it, as you will have lifetime access to all of the sessions (which is so helpful since you can take time to listen whenever it's convenient for you).

The conference won't take place until September, however, the last day to get the super early-bird pricing is tomorrow, July 31st.  The pricing will go up after that.  I'd love to hear if you sign up, and if you've found it useful if you've taken part in any of the other Homemaking Ministries conferences in previous years.  I know I've been able to learn some good things from past conferences.

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Thursday, July 26, 2018

Godly and Polite Communication

I'm just sharing some basic tips about communication today that are often forgotten.  These are very basic, and if we do not currently practice them, we should work on making them a habit so that we may have that "meek and quiet spirit" that is of great worth to the Lord.

When someone is speaking to you, listen.  Really listen.  Be attentive.  Don't think about whatever else is going on around you, or what you should say in reply while someone is telling you about something.  Just be quiet and listen.

Ask Questions
If you don't quite understand what is being said, or if you would like further information, ask questions.  This is to be done politely, of course, and with a goal of having better understanding.  It is much better to ask questions than to make assumptions about someone or something.  There are so many times that people have made assumptions about me instead of taking the time to get to know me or asking questions to find out what is really going on in my life or what I think about something.  Making assumptions can be terribly destructive.

Don't Spread or Listen to Gossip
Many times, gossip is made based on assumptions someone has made about someone else, or it may be a deliberate spreading of falsehood if someone is really malicious.  We should get in the habit of not passing on, or listening to, unseemly news or information about others, but instead go to the source, if need be, to find out the truth.  The Bible has much to say against slander and gossip.

I will leave off with this verse, and encourage you to be reading God's wonderful Word every day, as it has much to teach us about communication (as well as everything else that pertains to life and godliness).
If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain. (James 1:26)

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Thursday, July 12, 2018

Favorite Classical Music

Often, I enjoy having some classical music on during the day while I'm teaching the children their lessons.  I like something relaxing and not too "bouncy" or distracting.  Some times it can be hard to find a selection that I particularly like and that is conducive to learning.

But this is one of my favorites. I hope you enjoy it too:

Isn't the above such a lovely painting?  Maybe when I am older I will have time to paint such lovely things to remind me of when the children were young, and of all the blessings and joys of motherhood.

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